Friday, April 21, 2006

What is wrong with that woman???

So dear mother came over today. Greaaaaat! On her way out she noticed a wedding picture of a friends daughter, she is expecting in July. (Ugg) Anyway she wondered how friends daughter was doing with her PG. I told dear mother that I really don't see or hear from her very often.

Friends daughter only called me the first three months they started trying because she wasn't getting PG and she was really really upset.(It took her 4 months, I don't think that quite classifies her as IF but what do I know?) She wanted my advice on what to tell people when they told her to relax. She figured I must have heard that a few times in the 11 or so years we were TTC. (Ya think). I told her to try to ignore them because some people just don't get it. (She should know that one, her mother, my friend, has no filter on her mouth!! LOL). What I really wanted to tell her is to tell them to F-Off (I am soo bad!)

But back to my story (I could never be a writer I get sidetracked way to fast!!) So dear mother wonders why I don't know what's going on with her PG. She was bugging me and bugging me and bugging me and... you get the picture. Finally I was getting ticked off and I said I really can't be around PG people right now as it still bothers me. (This is why dear mother doesn't know about current FET!) Then wait for it... she says to me "What is your problem? Why does that bother you, it shouldn't. You have 2 healthy boys what is your problem?"

Now I typically don't say a lot but I was getting annoyed as she was going on and on and on. So finally I said "Just because I had a successful PG it doesn't mean that I forgot about the 11 years before". It wasn't exactly a fun time for us. Needless to say Dear MOTHER just doesn't get IT. The thing that gets me is that I am an only child (GREAAAAT) due to secondary IF. Endo I believe (different than me I am Unexplained IF'er). I could have just clubbed her, it's a good thing she was heading out the door. She must have lost her blasted mind!

She wonders why I don't tell her anything... duh I dunno!!! IF'ers should be exempt from family crap!! LOL

We won't mention the fact that she is ALWAYS telling everyone that she NEVER thought she would be a Grandma (and yes she emphasizes the NEVER and she makes it sound like it was all my fault)... gawd that drives me nuts, like shut the f up as if I could control when I had children. Stupid stupid woman.

Ok I feel better now!

FET Thoughts
I sure hope this FET works... (I suppose Dear Mommy will be surprised!)

Quote of the day
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away. "
- Unknown


At 12:34 p.m., April 22, 2006, Blogger UtRus said...

AHAHHRHHRH! thank goodness for blogs. i'm sorry your mom drives you up the wall. but... if she's anything like my mom-in-law, sometimes denial of her OWN pain can cause severe insensitivity towards others. soon as i came to realize this, i kinda understood her a bit better. hugs and have a great weekend! p.s. read my blog - i posted about you xx

At 2:54 p.m., April 22, 2006, Blogger Beagle said...

We can pick our friends, not our family (there's a reason someone came up with that I guess.)

I just posted that my mom showed a glimmer of getting it, but trust me, we've had our share of really, REALLY not getting it moments too.

Most people don't get it, but it hurts more from our moms.

Sorry she's not more in tune.

At 5:10 p.m., April 22, 2006, Blogger One Mother's Journey said...

Now if all of our family and friends "got it" what would be left for us to blog about?

I'm sorry your mom was so insensitive. Mine continuously reminds me of how fertile she was. That EVERYtime they "tried" it happened right away. I just love to hear that...

At 7:02 p.m., April 22, 2006, Blogger Rumour Miller said...

Let's vent about PG people... especially those that are easily PG....

We tried for 2 years (my eggs weren't cooking and needed some help but whatever) so like all others who have tried and tried and tried (for longer than 4 months) I knew EXACTLY when I was ovulating (finally ovulating, I should say). Anyway you get the picture.

My 19 year old cousin has an OOOOPSIE PG (and is due one month to the effing day after me). When Piper arrived 4 weeks early my brilliant, mature and apparently oh so effing fertile cousin has this to say:

"4 weeks early! you had your dates off."

UMMMMMMMM F-YOU. We conceived either on our 4th wedding anniversary or a day later in a Tim Horton's tent while camping.

So needless to say - I have some issues with PGers too. *sigh*

At 7:11 p.m., April 22, 2006, Blogger Just another Jenny said...

Uggg, parents. My dad insisted on my holding my (almost) step-daughers new baby. Yuck, gross. Thankfully the poor girl looks like her dad so focusing on that made it easier.
Sometimes I think people should appreciate me not telling, I do it to preserve relationships - not to push them away. I am so sorry that your mother is not more supportive.

At 8:34 p.m., April 22, 2006, Blogger Dream Mommy said...

4 months and complaining! Of course, I'm sure my 2 years don't compare to others who have suffered a lot longer.

More the the "relax" advice, I'm sick of hearing to "be patient."

At 9:39 p.m., April 22, 2006, Blogger Sarah said...

So sorry that you had to deal with such insensitivity, especially from your mom. I just told my mom a few weeks ago about what we have been going through, and I fully expected her to make some insensitive remark as she has done in the past. Suprisingly, she was actually quiet, didn't say a word, and just gave me a big hug. So I am sending a big quiet hug your way!

At 10:33 a.m., April 23, 2006, Blogger Mary Ellen and Steve said...

Life would be so much easier if we could make people understand huh? It hurts even more when the people who are supposed to be there for us the most don't seem to get it. I know exactly how you feel.

I am sorry that your mom has been so insensitive. Just know that there are a lot of us out here in blogland pulling for you, and you can vent to us anytime you need.


At 5:33 a.m., April 24, 2006, Anonymous Meg said...

Soralis - BLEUCH; sounds horrible. As if you can just take away eleven years... x


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